Hate to say it...
[Saskatoon, Saskatchewan]Song of the day: Georgia on my mind - Ray Charles
I'm sorry, but I just really need to express on here my utter hatred for the way people casually bring up the past.
Now, let me explain myself.
You're at the bar, trying to (meet people/hang out with friends/dance/drink) and you run into an old (classmate/friend/former best friend). And the conversation goes something like this:
(Friend) "Hey!"
(You) "Hey! How are you?"
(F) "Good. How about you?"
(Y) "Good. So what are you up to?"
(F) "Not too much. How about you?"
(Y) "Nothing much. Just (insert pastimes here)"
(F) "Cool!"
...lull in conversation. I hate that part alone because of the informality. But let me continue:
(F)"...Wow. It's so good to see you!"
(Y) "Ya. Same here."
(F) "Hey, remember when we were ten, and we used to hang out, like, every weekend?"
(Y) "...(eyes down, nod, smile) Yep. Ya, that was fun."
Honestly.
This is the absolute worst when it's someone that truely used to be your best friend. Hey, I'm all for talking to people. But especially if I haven't seen you in years, talk about what I'm doing now, what I'm interested in, what my plans are. But I hate HATE when people throw out the nostalgic "Hey, remember when we were younger?" after just seeing me. Sure, I bet we had a lot of fun when we were younger, but I like the way my life is right now. If I didn't like it, I would change it. I do NOT need to be reminded of what it was like 10 years ago, and how I've grown apart from some of my closest friends.
The other thing I hate is when people (again, after just re-meeting you for the first time in years) bring up these miniscule points of memory and expect them to be earth-shattering revelations.
"Hey, remember when we were in Grade Four, and we tried to collect all of those books by that author?"
What if I don't remember? Now one of your main memories of me is tarnished because it obviously doesn't mean as much to me as it does to you. (And it must be a major memory, cause we've only been talking for 3 minutes and you've brought it up).
I guess it just seems to me that there isn't anything better to talk about when you have to re-hash some segment of history casually, and 'casually' is probably the worst part about it. No real care or personality. If there was any, you'd be talking about 'now' and 'later', rather than 'then'.
Maybe I'm wrong. But I just get this lame feeling whenever someone tries to pull a "Hey remember when" right off the top.
It's Easter Sunday tomorrow. I'm happy about that.
Brennan "Cut my life into pieces" Cuff
posted by Leah Wilburn @ 1:39 AM
1 Comments:
When I'm drunk (to avoid such situations, that and I usually don't like the people I havn't talked to in a while) I just let them know about how my life sucks and I hate my job, then they usually have nothing to say and I part ways, if its a girl I used to know I'll usually buy them a drink, and then part ways. Yea kind of an asshole thing to do, but thats what its all about. And if you keep it short then they will be excited to see you again next time instead of seeing them again and knowing you have nothing to talk about so just not acknowledging them. Oh I always do that. So my advice, keep it short.
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